Have you ever heard the saying that we're not machines but rather a garden? Meaning that we aren't the same every day, and our needs are not the same either.
It all starts with self-compassion. Let's preface this by saying - being hard on yourself will not keep you motivated in the long run. Only self-compassion and building a relationship with yourself can keep you going.
Self-compassion can be had in good times and bad, but it’s key difference is that in speaking to ourselves more kindly, we can embrace the imperfectness of being human and therefore grow from it. This means that when we have setbacks, we can bounce back much faster because we're not stuck on being hard on ourselves. It also means that our relationship with ourself is not compromised in the process.
By honoring your humanness, mistakes and setbacks aren't a reflection on your value. Setbacks are a sign of your humanness and the ever-evolving nature of life.
Acknowledge that not everyday will be the same. Give yourself the flexibility to do more on the high motivation days and less on the low motivation days. When you listen to the rhythm of your body, you sustain yourself. Not everyday will be the same, and that's okay. Affirmation: I am a garden that needs to be tended to differently on different days.
Writing. If you haven't already tried it, writing as often as everyday can be a huge help in connecting with yourself and understanding what you need. Think of it as time to connect with yourself. It's a space to funnel out the noise in your head onto the page. With that extra space from busy thoughts, you can get the perspective to understand what you need to give yourself, what you may need to release, or what you may need to feel. ❤️ Pro tip: meditation after journalling can be a great combination as your mind will have had the chance to empty out the intrusive thoughts that like to pop in.
Connect with your passions, connect with your life force. When you have something to work towards that excites you, it shows. It's a force that ignites a fire in your being that can be harnessed to propel you in every aspect of your life.
We all have passions. If you struggle to know what it may be, think back to when you were a child. What were the things that excited you most. What made you excited to wake up in the morning and kept you up late at night past bedtime? A big part of healing is actually just getting back to the things we used to love and the kid that we used to be.
Some days we need a little bit more sun, water, or rest than other days. Don't expect yourself to operate like a computer. You are a beautiful garden that must be tended to differently each day. ☀️🌸
In the video, Dr. Liz talks about 3 core principles of The Lotus Collaborative:
1: We value collaboration. We heavily invest in training our staff to offer quality, cutting edge, evidence based, heart centered, effective clinical care. We value quality when hiring and investing in our staff. We have trained, educated, and supervised many eating disorder specialists in our SC and SF communities. We believe recovery can happen when there is excellent support.
2: We honor our client's Hero/ine's Journey. Lotus believes those who suffer from eating disorders are gifted, sensitive folk. We collaborate with our clients that their health crisis and recovery are a quest to fully become the hero/ine they are meant to be. Eating disorders are a symptom and a calling from a person's heart and soul to evolve and change. We see the gifts our client's possess and partner with them, to actualize those gifts to achieve recovery. We offer solution based treatment that doesn't pathologize our clients or eating disorders.
3: We are light we want to see in the world. Treatment at Lotus inspires hope. We believe that at our core is luminous light. Trauma and hardship can cover that light, make us doubt our capacity. We honor that inner light in ourselves and support our clients to remember and recover their inner light as well.
Lotus' Evolution Over the Years
Dr. Liz is the founder, owner and CEO of The Lotus Collaborative. Their first program opened in 2011 in Santa Cruz and 3 years later in San Fransisco.
In 2020, Lotus opened a mood and trauma treatment program. They began and continue today offering online virtual programming for eating disorder, mood and trauma treatment.
In 2021, Dr. Liz opened a psychedelic assisted psychotherapy division of Lotus, called Luminous Healing Center. They are one of the few centers in the nation approved to offer MDMA Assisted Psychotherapy under the Expanded Access label. Currently they are offering Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP).
Over the past decade, many eating disorder programs were bought by investment banks. Despite plentiful offers to sell, Dr. Liz remained committed to offering quality treatment programs, run by eating disorder treatment specialist professionals.
How can business decisions trump, what is in the best interest of the client, and the hard working professional staff that run the programs?
Many programs don't consider the health of their staff and organization, cutting corners to increase profits, but sparing quality treatment. Dr. Liz has personally recovered from trauma and an eating disorder, has been an eating disorder therapist, a clinical director, an executive director, a founder, and remains a CEO and owner. Lotus hires staff to run the programs that have recovered as well. Our clinical, business and financial decisions, focus on the best interest of the client, the staff and the organization.
The Lotus Collaborative today remains one of the few, women-led, privately owned and operated, eating disorder treatment program in the nation.
Lotus believes in clinical professionals leading rather than banks and business investors. They aren't beholden to anyone, so program offerings remain quality, client centered, run by professionals that have personally recovered.
Beliefs are thoughts that we continue to think. If we can start to think new thoughts that are more conducive to acceptance, self-love, and ease, then we can begin to see the world, and ourselves within the world, differently.
For young people in the queer community, it can be difficult not knowing if family and friends will truly love them for them — never knowing if the love they get will be unconditional.
Folks in the LGBTQ+ community may wonder if they can expect that unconditional love from the people closest to them, and when it comes to self-talk, it can be difficult for LGBTQ+ identifying individuals to convince themselves that they not only *can* ask for what they need, but that they are more than allowed to do so.
Affirmations are a great way to do this, and what better month than this to make them LGBTQ+ focused.
Whether you are a member of the LGBTQ+ community or not, try these affirmations to positively change your self-talk. You are worthy of joy, safety and acceptance. It's your birthright. ❤️
It is a joy to get to know the true me.
My life has meaning beyond what others think of me.
The people who deserve to love me will be excited to accept the real me.
I deserve love without conditions.
I will give myself love without conditions.
Others discomfort with who I am says more about them than it says about me.
I will be patient with myself as I learn how to love myself without conditions.
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